I began my New Years nauseated while watching a marathon of “Dating Naked”.
So far a productive start to 2015.
I’m not a huge fan of starting new at the beginning of the year. This cultural theme of a “fresh start” or “starting over” can only happen once every 12 months.
But I do understand the romance behind it, and if it’s what someone needs to get motivated, then I completely understand.
I’m guilty of this myself. Yes, this year I made life changes outside of the traditional January 1st time-frame. But I really never took the time of self-reflection, took the time to evaluate my character, my weaknesses, and my accomplishments.
I guess once every 12 months is better than nothing.
My New Years resolution for 2014 was to stay off my phone.
We will just say I’m currently writing this on my phone.
But because my resolution was a failure, doesn’t mean my year was.
Granted it was a tough year. I ended my seven and a half year relationship: lost my husband, my best friend, my home, my dog, and most of my belongings.
Admittedly I still feel an immense amount of guilt in that decision. Even though, in the end, I know it had to be made.
But I won’t let that define my 2014.
In the past seven months, I have had more life experiences than I had in over two years.
I went to a “self-love” workshop (not the sexy kind), reconnected with old friends, finally visited Austin, wrote a script, entered a short story contest, signed up for a dance class (which starts tonight), tried bouldering at the rock gym, finally met my idol, Chuck Palahniuk, and met amazing inspirational people.
I know these may seem small, but they were things I had been talking about trying for years.
I just never started any of them.
The fact is it’s never too late.
And achievements are never too small.
Don’t dwell on not going through with your resolution, because maybe this isn’t the time for that one. Focus on what you have accomplished and remember there isn’t a specific time frame to start anew. It can happen whenever you make it happen.
Whenever you’re ready for it to happen.
During my “self love” workshop, we had one minute to say all positive things about ourselves. Super silly I know, but it’s amazing what having positive thoughts can do for your ego. Below is my little mantra (from what I can remember). It was impromptu, and done within the minute we were given, so it may read offbeat, but it’s what I chose to say about myself.
Take the time to create your own. Say it out loud. Own it. Type it in the comments, say it in the mirror, or create a blog on how fantastic you are.
Because honey, you are your own best critic.
My Little Mantra
“I’m a writer
I’m a dancer
I’m a lover
not a fighter
but I’m still a warrior
I’m an explorer
I am not a fucking lady
I am no longer domesticated
I’m a daughter
I’m a little bit weird
But that’s part of my charm
I am fucking Rikki”